Fathers & Sons & Sports

  Contents

  Mike Lupica INTRODUCTION

  Tom Friend Worlds Apart

  Paul Solotaroff A Father’s Small Hope

  Bill Geist from Little League Confidential

  Dan Shaughnessy from Senior Year

  John Ed Bradley from It Never Rains in Tiger Stadium

  Henry Aaron, as told to Cal Fussman from After Jackie

  Mark Kriegel from Pistol: The Life of Pete Maravich

  Jeff Bradley Someone You Want to Play With

  Mike Golic with Andrew Chaikivsky What Got You Where You Are

  Ron Reagan Flip Turn

  Michael J. Agovino My Dad, the Bookie

  Wright Thompson Holy Ground

  Lew Schneider Sporting Chance

  James Brown Dirty Moves

  John Buffalo Mailer Mailer vs. Mailer

  Norman Maclean from A River Runs Through It

  Donald Hall from Fathers Playing Catch With Sons

  Peter Richmond Tangled Up in Blue

  Buzz Bissinger from Friday Night Lights

  John Jeremiah Sullivan from Blood Horses

  Jeremy Schaap A Fathers Gift

  Paul Hoffman from King’s Gambit

  Darcy Frey from The Last Shot

  Steve Wulf Bo Knows

  ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

  Introduction

  MIKE LUPICA

  y dad first took me into the room, welcomed me into the company of sports, when I was six.

  He had long since completed all the preliminaries, patiently teaching me the rules of baseball, buying me my first bat and glove, giving me a cut-off five-iron and showing me how to grip it, taking me to the park next door to our house and watching as I finally, and with everything I had, managed to heave a basketball to the rim for the first time.

  But it was on the day the Giants played the Colts in 1958—the first sudden-death championship game in NFL history, the one that made pro football a big television attraction in this country—that I joined the conversation.

  We lived in upstate New York at the time. There was no American Football League, no DirecTV, no NFL Sunday Ticket, no thought even given to letting people watch any matchup they wanted on Sunday afternoon. For me, there was just one game: The football Giants. And now they had beaten Jim Brown and the Cleveland Browns, and they were going up against Johnny Unitas’s Colts for the title. So this Sunday was different.

  I wasn’t just watching with my dad. All of my uncles were there as well. Just like that, I was in. So many things have changed for me in the life I’ve been lucky to lead since that day in December 1958, but one thing remains the same: There is no game I am watching that I wouldn’t rather be watching with my dad. The best days I’ve had in sports, either in front of a TV screen or at the ballpark, were shared with my dad and my three sons.

  (And just for the record: My nine-year-old daughter? When she occasionally sits with me and asks questions about a game I am watching—usually with her brothers out of the room, usually a baseball game—it is a joy of my life. But this is a book about fathers and sons and sports. I’m just doing my job here!)

  The first great day was December 28, 1958, Alan Ameche going into the end zone in overtime, sports breaking my heart for the first time.

  I remember that play. I remember a big fumble from Frank Gifford. I remember Unitas’s near perfection, never missing a receiver or a throw. The rest of it is a blur. What I know now about the game I have filled in over the years: Raymond Berry’s catches, the big catch Jim Mutscheller made, Lenny Moore’s running, and the plays that Chuckin’ Charlie Conerly made for the Giants. Because it was such an iconic game I have, over time, been able to remember what I had forgotten. ESPN Classic will do that for you.

  What I have never forgotten and never will forget is the magic in the room as I sat on the couch next to my father. The excitement of it all. The air in the room.

  My friend Seymour Siwoff, who founded the Elias Sports Bureau, once described sports as you talking about a moment and me talking about the same moment and the air in between us.

  I remember sitting next to my dad and I remember that air.

  There was no formal announcement, no rite of initiation. It was as if my dad took me by the hand and we entered this world together, the world of shared memories and a shared language and all the things, good and bad, that sports make you feel.

  The best part of it is, we are still in it. Together. And now my own sons are there with us. I’m sure you have your own home court crowd, the one arena in sports where you most want to be.

  That is mine.

  My oldest boy is in college now, Boston College, my alma mater. My mom and dad live in New Hampshire, in the house we moved into in 1964. The house is less than an hour from downtown Boston, so this past October I arranged for my pop and my son to attend the first two games of the Red Sox-Indians American League Championship Series.

  I was going up to Boston for the series’ last two games, so I watched the first two at home. And there was a moment in Game One when the count went to 3-2 on Manny Ramirez and the crowd at Fenway got up, the way it does, and the cameras began to take random shots, the way cameras do.

  Suddenly there they were.

  My son was up first. My dad, who was eighty-three at the time, took a little longer to get out of his seat, though he would tell me later that it was only because his grandson, the college boy, was blocking his way.

  There they were, the two of them front and center on my television screen, side by side. There was my son where I had always been, next to my dad.

  We had TiVo on the set I was watching, so I was able to record the moment the way you would record a great play, a great shot or catch or swing of the bat. Because this wasn’t a picture worth a thousand words, it was worth a million. Because there it was, the bond between fathers and sons I am trying to explain here as best I can:

  That bond being passed on.

  This introduction is about my own father-son memories. I’m sure you have your own, about your first bat and glove, about your first trip to the ballpark, Fenway Park or Yankee Stadium or Wrigley or Dodger Stadium. My dear friend Pete Hamill remembers everything—and I mean everything—about the day he went to Ebbets Field with his father, the two of them seeing for the first time Jack Roosevelt Robinson play a game of baseball for the Brooklyn Dodgers.

  “That was the day the template was cut,” is the way Hamill puts it.

  You never need TiVo for a day like that.

  Here’s another childhood memory from upstate New York. We lived more than five hours away from Yankee Stadium by car, and so there were years when the only big-league baseball I saw was the old exhibition game they used to play in Cooperstown on Hall of Fame weekend. One year, by sheer blessed chance, the Yankees were in that game.

  Only once we were inside the little antique ballpark, it began to rain. And it wouldn’t stop raining. And before long it was end-of-the-world rain, and everybody was running back to the streets of the little town, looking for some sort of cover, any sort of cover. Including my dad and me.

  We managed to find an awning on Cooperstown’s main street. As we were catching our breath, soaking wet, we turned around. There, in full uniform, standing next to us in his No. 14, was Bill “Moose” Skowron. The ballplayers, it turned out, had come running to town like everybody else.

  My dad is a sweet, shy, gentle man. But now he tapped Skowron on the shoulder, introduced himself, and said, “Mr. Skowron, I’d like you to meet my son, Michael.”

  The big man shook my hand.

  The first big leaguer I ever met.

  Another door in sports opened by my dad.

  He never pushed them on me. He has always loved sports, has always
been passionate about his teams, but never allowed that passion to run wild. Never allowed sports to lose its wonderful place in his wonderful life. If he has passed on anything to me, it is that.

  My friend William Goldman, who wrote The Princess Bride and Marathon Man, who won Oscars for Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid and All The President’s Men, is always talking about how he instantly finds a comfort zone in any Hollywood meeting if somebody in the room is a sports fan.

  “I know we’ve got a common language,” Bill says.

  I got that language from my dad. It isn’t something I remember learning, the way I remember struggling to learn Spanish or French in school. There is no day that I remember my dad sitting me down and telling me he was going to teach me the language of the infield-fly rule. We just started communicating through sports as well as we communicated through anything.

  And still do.

  When Jack Nicklaus came from behind to win the Masters in 1986, with his son Jackie on the bag that day, I probably called my dad ten times over the last nine holes. It was the year before my first son was born. So when the big things happened in sports, it was still my pop and me.

  A year earlier, we had been in his den in New Hampshire when Doug Flutie completed that Hail Mary pass against Miami the day after Thanksgiving, the most famous pass not just in the history of his school and mine, but in all of college football.

  Once more, my dad and I were in front of a television, two big kids hugging each other and doing this crazy dance in front of the set, sharing the magic of that moment, breathing in the intoxicating air in the room.

  I remember Flutie on the run and the ball in the air and then Flutie sprinting down the field to celebrate with his buddy, Gerard Phelan, the guy who had somehow caught that ball.

  I see it now and wish I was there.

  Not in the Orange Bowl.

  But back in the room with my father.

  So I hope you enjoy reading about fathers and sons and sports in the pages of this book. I have my memories. The writers of these pieces have their own.

  Ron Reagan writes about the first time he beat his father in the swimming pool, a boy of twelve edging out his sixty-year-old dad. Poet Laureate Donald Hall writes lyrically about the simple act of playing catch with your father, and John Buffalo Mailer writes about the morning his famous father, Norman, led him to believe—at the age of three—that he had the best right-hand cross in the world.

  John Ed Bradley explains the lessons he learned about football and life from his father the coach, and the great Henry Aaron dreams of making it big in sports. John Jeremiah Sullivan writes about seeking to understand his own deceased sportswriter father by looking into the man’s love of sports, particularly his love for the horse Secretariat.

  And pardon my prejudice, but there is a particularly wonderful piece written by my friend Jeremy Schaap about his late father, Dick. Maybe you know this and maybe not, but I was lucky enough to have Dick Schaap as a friend and mentor for more than thirty years of my life, and then lucky enough to sit next to him on ESPN’s The Sports Reporters for more than a decade.

  Besides the one next to my dad and my boys, it is the best seat I’ve ever had.

  In “A Father’s Gift,” Jeremy writes about how Dick missed two of Reggie Jackson’s three home runs in Game Six of the 1977 World Series because he was off getting hot dogs and sodas for his son.

  In “Holy Ground,” Wright Thompson explains the pain of losing his dad to cancer before he could deliver on a promise to share a golf trip to the Masters Tournament with him.

  These are only a few of the fine pieces in this book. I urge you to read them all. In the end, they will do exactly what sports does. They will make you feel and they will make you remember.

  I write young adult novels now, have for years. The first was Travel Team, a book that really began for me—unexpectedly—the first time sports broke the heart of my second son, when he was cut from a seventh-grade travel team for being too small. I started a basketball team that year for all the boys who got cut, and it became one of the greatest sports experiences, one of the greatest seasons, of my life.

  My son will remember that season the way all the boys on that team will remember it. But more than a season he didn’t expect to have, one that none of the boys expected to have, it was an adventure my boy and I shared together.

  My newest novel, The Big Field, is built around the strained relationship between the hero and his father, a failed ballplayer. The two think the bond between them is irretrievably lost until their common love of sports helps them find the love they still have for each other.

  Again: I have my own stories, my own memories, about my dad. You have yours. The writers of these stories have theirs. The language, though, the language doesn’t change.

  Neither does the air in the room.

  Mike Lupica

  January 2008

  Worlds Apart

  TOM FRIEND

  here’s where your dad used to live, right above the strip club. There’s the 7-Eleven where he used to steal doughnuts. Those are the bushes where he used to have sex.

  That’s the street corner where he robbed a stinking drunk. That’s the jail where his mom was locked up.

  What, you’re scared of this place? You don’t even know this place. Your dad went to bed hungry here. His only meal of the day was a school lunch (unless they served brussels sprouts). Having electricity on a Tuesday didn’t guarantee he’d have it on a Wednesday. He was evicted twenty-three times. He got a new pair of sneakers once every three years. He got a girl pregnant at fourteen. Your mom.

  You guys like your life, right? You’ve got a computer and an iPod and an Xbox. Your dad didn’t even have a mailbox. You live in a 14,000-square-foot mansion. It’s not in the ’burbs, it’s beyond the ’burbs. It’s on a mountain. It’s got nine showers for the humans and one for the dog. It’s got a pool table and a pool. It’s got a theater downstairs and a lighthouse upstairs. It’s got a maid’s quarters, even though there’s no maid, and a wine cellar, even though there’s no wine. It’s got an arcade room, a steam room, a workout room and rooms to be named later. It’s got a Super Bowl ring.

  How old are you three kids now—fifteen, twelve and nine? It’s time you realize your dad wasn’t always a filthy rich football player. He used to be nothing, used to get spit on, shot at, trash-talked.

  He used to clean his sneakers with a toothbrush, used to heat his apartment by sticking a lit match in a mayonnaise jar. But you guys? You’ve got flat-screen TVs in your rooms, two dozen pairs of sneakers in your closets, a gazebo in your backyard. You’ve gotten kind of soft, kind of complacent, kind of … country club.

  So your dad’s decided to drive you down your mountain today, decided to take you straight past the hookers and the houses that are boarded up. He’s decided to drop you off in the hood, right in front of a ratty Boys & Girls Club. He’s just going to drop you and drive off. For your own good.

  See you in three hours.

  It isn’t by the book, but, the Dolphins’ thirty-year-old safety Tebucky Jones could be NFL Father of the Year for this.

  One year ago, he took three well-mannered, well-dressed, well-fed kids and sent them, argyles and all, back to his own cruel childhood. It wasn’t entirely necessary and it wasn’t entirely safe, but he couldn’t rely on MTV Cribs to toughen them up. He had to do it himself.

  They just weren’t taking his cues. They’d see him turning off light switches behind them or spending entire days with his rottweiler, and they wouldn’t think to ask why. They didn’t know that, growing up in the New Britain, Connecticut, slums, he found a puppy pit bull. That he hid the pit bull in his closet for days, knowing his mother, Maryann, didn’t need another mouth to feed. That his mother heard barking in Tebucky’s room one day and that Tebucky tried saying, “That’s me barking.” That it broke his nine-year-old heart to send that puppy back to the streets.

  They didn’t know that one of his apartments
burned to a crisp, that he was homeless in junior high for weeks, that he stole five hundred dollars from a drunk because it was either that or sleep on a sewer cap.

  They didn’t know that he used to cut a hole in his jacket, stroll into a 7-Eleven and stuff candy into the hole. Or that he led a search party for his mother one night, not realizing she’d been thrown in the slammer on drug charges. Or that he’d seek refuge at the New Britain Boys Club, even though there were hookers across the street and gang members outside firing guns.

  So he told them everything. He told them about his one pair of sneakers, how he had to wear the same size 8’s from fifth to seventh grades even though, by the end, they were four sizes too small for him. How the sneakers were cheap red and black Sprints. How he put a piece of tape over the insignia so they’d look like Air Jordans. How, in school one day, his cousin tore the piece of tape off, and how he could barely face the world after that. He told them that a classmate named Jenny felt compassion for him. That she’d bring him food from Burger King late at night. That Tebucky’s mom didn’t want Jenny around and that Jenny’s middle-class parents didn’t want Tebucky around. That Tebucky used to throw pebbles at her bedroom window to get her to sneak out. That they’d go fool around in the bushes.

  He told them that when he was fourteen, he got Jenny pregnant. That his family and friends told him to dump her. That they told him to choose football over a ball and chain. That he chose football for a while, until he met his baby girl, four-week-old Letesha. That the minute Letesha threw up all over him, he was hooked. He decided he wasn’t giving up anything. Not the football and not the ball and chain.

  Jenny told them how rare it was for a teenage dad to stick by his girl and his kid. Or kids. When Tebucky was sixteen, Jenny got pregnant with Tebucky Jr., and when he was nineteen, she got pregnant with Malique. Jenny told them that when she was living at home and he was up at Syracuse playing football, he proposed to her in the middle of a long-distance phone call. That he brought them all up to campus even though he had no money in his wallet. That they had no car and had to take buses in subzero weather. That they were so poor, he stole a Christmas tree for them one December.